Saturday, June 24, 2006

-QUESTION! : Do fairytales exist?-

QUESTION.
Do Fairytales Exist?
This topic has been discussed at great lengths with TengPing, so it's really thanks to her that this post has made it this long. =)

Have you ever wondered why:
♣ things sometimes never go your way
♣ the world isn't a fair place
♣ people quarrel
♣ disasters occur
♣ sometimes your day is simply screwed up

Would you rather believe that:
• This is part of your fairytale, and that one day you will wake up to find everything more than fine
• Life is no fairytale, no picnic, and fairytales are just fabricated imagination woven into a book
• Fairytales are for children, and if you are not a child, you don't believe in it, and therefore your life is as stagnant as an un-fairytale, reality.


In fairytales, everyone is super skinny, everyone is beautiful and amazing, they have grace, they have charm. And, in the end, they all fall in love, marry their prince, and live in the bliss of happy-ever-after, in the shelter of true love, and in the rains of adoration.

To believe. It's better that way.

However, should children be exposed to what isn't true, and what won't happen, and in the end, what won't come true? Or will it? Will it set them up for disappointment? Should they not be alerted to that fact that the world isn't what it's made up to be, that their little world cannot consist of true love and a happy-ever-after alone? That if they do, they're whole world might crash down on them one day because they don't know and are not aware of the fact that there are bad guys out there who would try to hurt you?

But we love fairytales. Ever since young we do... Even if you do not realise it. Ever since we were born onto this Earth, we loved fairytales. We wanted a happy ever after. Everyone does.

And there was one, in a book, in a matter of pages, held within words if you would just bother to read it. But in the small print, can you not see "Please snap into reality", at the corner at the page?

Because there isn't one. They will have to slowly grow up by themselves and slowly come to terms with that fact that life cannot always go the way you want it to, and that you cannot write your life out on paper. Do notice that I didn't put 'life is no fairytale' anywhere on this page. Every child needs to fall down at least once before they can grow and face reality, and sometimes I wonder if I have fallen down, and if I have realised the difference between fantasy and reality, and if my whole life is a fanatsy, a replica of reality.

It kills me inside to think that I might never know if I have clearly definied what's fantasy and what is my reality, and to think that whatever decision I make now, this year, will affect me very much later on in life, and that it could affect me very much worse... It really kills me inside. What if I make a wrong move down death road?

So. Whenever children are feeling down, they look back on fairytales and they cheer up, and it gives them hope, is that it? Would they want to be told, "Hey, look, I konw this is a stretch for your brain, but fairytales don't come true sometimes,", or, in short and bluntly, "Hey, you. Grow out of your security blanket!".

I don't think they would appreciate it very much, it would just scare them, wouldn't it? So what's better? Tell them, "Hey look, this is the world. This is fantasy. This is reality. Choose which world you want to live in," I think that's a very bad choice because I myself am not sure which category I would pick.

The world? What IS the world? What is fantasy? And the big shocker, what is reality? What is the world you actually live in?

Instead of the boogie man and creepy crawlies under the bed, instead of monsters with sharp teeth and razor claws, should we really be afraid of reality?

All that children (and us, really. you're just pushing reality away if you don't think so) want to do is to pose for photos, look pretty, impress the world, mess with your hair, find new experiences and, in short, find our very own fairytale.

Even when you are looking for that fairytale, you know that not everyone's life can be that amazing fairytale. Everyone finds that out, but somehow everyone is still disappointed when it doesn't work out for them. And why is that? Because we have one life? Because your expectations have been set too high?


Discussion: Princes and Castles

ME:
There is one prince to marry and a hundred thousand civilians, which makes one hundred thousand hopefuls. And all of them are looking for true love if they can't get the Prince. There are one hundred thousand civilians, and they have to look for it themselves, with nobody else's help. What are the chances, exactly?.

TENGPING:
As TengPing points out, there is a prince and a princess in everyone in the world. Even in the Wicked Witch of the East. Even in Kelly Mancuso in The Mediator, even a person which she pointed out, which I never thought had a princess inside her, but yeah. What matters is finding the right prince. Or princess. Notice I do not use the capital P now. No longer a special noun.

You just have to see it. Somehow or other. Even if I think I am completely 100% blind in this matter. If you don't, it's still there, you just have to look for it and open your eyes big. And you don't go looking elsewhere, because true love looks for you, you do not have to go about looking for it, because then it might never come.

ME:
If true love is as easy to find as it sounds, why is the world not filled with loving couples everywhere, and people loving their dogs, and love filling the air, crickets chirping, the works. Why are there still terrorists and the like? Why are they not together with the rest of the world, loving and living happy-ever-after fairytale lives?

If it is that easy to find, wouldn't it be that they look around the corner, find true love, and then settle down into their beautiful lives, and have all hate dissipate?

TENGPING:
They cannot see the love around them.

And to everything you need a contradiction. There's white, then there's black. There's love, then there's hate. There's good, then there's evil. It's the perfect balance. ANd besides if everything was good, love, white, peace, quiet, wouldn't it get boring after sometime?

Fairytales are nice, and besides, if there is no evil witch in SnowWhite, the prince would not have found the princess.


And our Conclusion

You need evil to realise good, you need hate to realise love, you need wrong... to find the right path for you. And fairytales are not just stories passed down, they're really the world, the entire meaning of life, compressed into a few characters, a few people, to make a summary. And this teacher us about life, love, everything you need to know, in fact. Everyone's life is a fairytale, you just have to get past the poison apple, the long long sleep, the decade in the tower, the few years as Cinderella, then you will be picked off and rode into the sunset...


| so spoken! @ 8:34 PM|

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